Getting a divorce is never a fun occasion, but it can become especially ugly when your ex decides to become a bully. If you feel emotionally or physically exhausted after every interaction with your ex or if he or she makes threats about taking you to court or making sure you don’t get custody of the kids, you need to tread carefully. If you fall into the trap of bullying and abuse, your ex wins. Here are a few ways to handle a bully before, during and after divorce proceedings.
Don’t Return Insults
It isn’t uncommon for spouses who feel rejected or jaded to lash out with insults. This is a childish behavior that points to deep-seated insecurities. While you may be tempted to respond in kind when you’re told you’re a terrible parent or an awful partner, be the bigger person. Either ignore the insults completely or respond with a cool, calm reply such as “I’m sorry you feel that way, but I disagree.” Then let it go. See the insults for what they are: bullying from someone who is angry and insecure.
Don’t Give in
If you’re the type of person who likes to keep the peace, you may be inclined to simply give in whenever our ex throws a fit. This can put you on a slippery slope to giving up your rights. When it comes to co-parenting, it’s important to stick to your guns and don’t give up time with your kids because your ex is having a meltdown. You must also set clear boundaries and stand up for yourself when your spouse crosses them.
Get a Good Attorney
It’s wise to have a good family attorney tampa on your side, whether you’re going through a friendly divorce or an ugly one. An attorney will help you understand your rights and can be your voice if your ex resorts to bullying behaviors.
These steps will help you avoid becoming a victim to a bullying ex. If further protective action needs to be taken for your safety, consult with your attorney as soon as possible.